Embracing Uncertainty: The Power of Admitting 'I Don't Know'

I don’t know. 

Three words that have liberated me from a rule I had made up that I should know the answer. 

 Being across the facts is how I thought I brought value. Knowing what to do was how I told myself I maintained my position. If I didn’t know, what was I doing there? I felt destabilised, no longer in control, clenched.

I see now that jumping on an answer was primarily to ease my discomfort and it could close possibilities. Staying with not knowing leaves space for something unexpected It opens an opportunity to collaborate, even connect with others.

When I finally understood it was ok not to know the answer it was like a weight off me. It didn’t mean I was useless at my job, it didn’t mean that I had lost all authority. And a little reflection could even enhance an answer. 

Work situations don’t have to be a combat zone, asking a question is a way to build towards the most effective answer. And not knowing the answer is a way to point to what could be missing. 

I now use 'I don't know' as an invitation to fire up my curiosity rather than an insecurity.

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Photo: Me not having any kind of clue ..... but it might come.